Miss lady, my girlfriend cries too much and its pissing me off. I can never make her happy or i did something wrong. or she cries for no reason and I dont get why. what do I do to make her stop or understand. -Lucas

Lucas, thanks for writing me because it seems like you might be a little insensitive or your girlfriend is too emotional. Did she just start birth control? Really. If she did that may be one of the reasons why her emotions are amplified. I cried all the time when I started the pill. As far as if you are doing something wrong or just never making her happy, things will probably just be like that sometimes. If it’s excessive then I would consider just asking her simply what is wrong or comforting her. You know, girls like to be comforted. Put your arm around her or something. If she’s upset and it has nothing to do with you I would consider asking her what happened to let her vent. Most guys will say something like, “well of course you did something wrong” etc and that definitely pushes the buttons for the water works if she’s already sensitive. Are you bothering her too much when she’s upset? People like space and if you aren’t giving it to her she’ll probably get more crabby. If you’re getting ‘pissed off’ at her for crying, that’s probably making it worse.

Getting down to the real reason why she’s upset may help you out. When she isn’t in an emotional state of mind I’d suggest having a real conversation about why she’s always crying. There could be some deep rooted family problem or she’s going through a lot of stress over school/work and doesn’t want to necessarily throw all the baggage on you. Finding out what is behind all the crying could help you understand what is going through her mind and in turn just make her stop with the water works all the time. And hey, that’d make her fall in love with you even more, right?

Maybe the solution is that you guys break things off. No one wants to deal with a girlfriend who is never happy/always crying and no one wants to deal with a boyfriend who doesn’t care enough.

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