Miss Lady,

xo

Oh my Dear. Are you content with the way things are? I am almost getting the feeling that you may not be. Females always want to get down to the nitty gritty and put a label on things so that you guys are on the “same page”. Hey, I won’t blame you. I’d want to know what the heck was going on too. I’m not sure I’d let it go on for four months, I’m pretty straight forward about things. So, maybe you are okay with it?

I’ll start off with saying that I am not against casual sex. As my boyfriend would say, I’m a history book full of chapters. He’s sweet huh? All kidding aside - so long as you’re playing it safe and not sleeping with guy after guy - do your thing girl. If it’s just a physical relationship that doesn’t go beyond a late night booty call then I wouldn’t press a serious conversation with the guy. Guys don’t like to be suffocated. They get all weird - feelings, emotions… you know. If you’re okay with that just being IT then I wouldn’t get too serious and brush all that nonsense stuff aside.

If it’s more than that and you actually hang out during the day and are a part of eachothers lives go ahead and drop the serious talk on him. I assume maybe you really like this guy and he’s not just a physical relationship to you, so you don’t want to scare him off by having that “so what are we” convo. What if he’s thinking the same thing too? You’ve got to just talk about it because if you are comfortable with the way things are and he feels the same, then great you guys can keep at it. If you aren’t comfortable and want more of a “relationship” out of it and that’s not what he’s looking for then you need to define your boundaries. Like neither of you can go nuts over one another talking to someone else, etc. Or maybe call it off if what you are looking for is a relationship. I’d say then not to waste your time (unless you really enjoy those booty calls).

As far as open relationships go I’ve never been in one. The ones I do know of, it’s been established that it’s an open relationship and both people understand that they are together but seeing other people (!?!?!?!). I’m not quite sure because I don’t really support open relationships. They get too sticky and complicated.

Hope this helps

Have questions for Miss Lady? Thoughts bubbling around in your mind? Email me at kymbyedge@gmail.com. XOXO!

Work Attire by Kymby featuring Vivienne Westwood Red Label skirts

Hi Ms Lady!

C.

Hey C - You can read this post I did a while back on what to wear to work. Lately I have been shopping more at Express because they constantly have sales. Every time I go in I’ve left with new slacks and tops as a “buy 1 get 1 50% off” or with coupons. I think they have a lot thats very work appropriate and will still make you look stylish. There is more to choose from their selection and the quality is worlds better- as opposed to Forever 21. If you visit their web site you can find a “Must-Have Looks” section that has “Career Separates”. This will give you more ideas on top of the post I made. The above look that I created on Polyvore.com is based off my latest favorite outfit to wear to work. Sometimes it seems hard to not be so boring because it’s easier to change the top and still wear the same slacks or skirt. Branch out and find different cuts like skinny, wide leg, pencil skirts, a-line, and colors like grays, browns, and even patterns. Trust me - doing just that opens a whole bunch of doors and really helps you create many different outfits.

As far as make up goes I always keep it simple. Most of the time I wear liquid eyeliner, only on top, mascara, and a bit of blush. If I do wear any eyeshadow it is one color (no blending with any other colors) that is subtle but still makes my eyes pop. One of my favorite is Baked by Urban Decay. It’s a rich, shimmery bronze and doesn’t get all over the place when applying in a rush. As a supervisor, when I see employees rolling in late that are caked with make up ready to go to the club, all I can think about is how they could really save themselves time (and a write up) if they didn’t blast their faces. If you work in a federal office, and any corporate office, you want to appear serious about your work and not your face.

I hope this helps you out or atleast gives you more ideas!

Have questions for Miss Lady? Thoughts bubbling around in your mind? Email me at kymbyedge@gmail.com. XOXO!

Miss Lady, What are your thoughts on Binge drinking (drinking large amounts of alcohol over a short period of time)? Drunk girls? Is it forgiveable every now and then or not? - Reader

I will breakdown this so we don’t get too much into the nitty gritty:
You go to a bar with a bunch of girlfriends and get pretty [VERY] intoxicated, end up hanging out with a completely sober guy that you kind of know… and things… well, they happen. Is anyone at fault here? Are you to blame for being a party animal, the guy for taking advantage of the fact, or your girlfriends for not telling the creep to lay off?

First, thank you for emailing this because it’s personal and appreciate you reaching out to me. Second, this is something I’d really like to get everyone’s opinion on.

I think that if you are going out with a bunch of your girlfriends, you have to know when to get eachothers back. When I go out with some of my girls, I get very over protective. If guys are getting too grabby or buying too many drinks/shots I put an end to it. That kind of weird sh*t does not go down on my watch. Don’t get me wrong, I love to have a good time (all the time) but I won’t let my friends be whisked away. You also need to know what your limit is - if you know that six pear vodka and crans gets you to black out, DON’T drink six. Try and shoot for three or four. Don’t let yourself get too out of control because you are responsible for your own self.

As far as the guy goes, he’s a guy. If you kind of know him and you let yourself be on him while you’re drinking - know that you started making the choice when you were a little coherent. Now I’m definitely not leaning towards the male side here, I’m simply stating that if a hook up starts to occur then it’s going to. That being said, he’s probably not a good guy.

I would reach out to him and talk about what happened that night. Maybe he was drinking and your friends (who were drinking?) can’t recall exactly what happened. Maybe your friends did try to pry you away from him but you gave them a battle.

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On a daily basis at work I always have my employees asking me for advice, well it’s about time you start doing the same. Let the submissions start to flow in.

What’s on your mind? Want to ramble to me a little bit, I’ll do a little rambling for my input too. What shoes should you wear with an outfit. Someone’s annoying you but you don’t know how else to resort except for violence? Maybe I’m annoying you? Ideas for a post that you’d like to see?

Email me: kymbyedge@gmail.com - do it!!!

Miss lady, my girlfriend cries too much and its pissing me off. I can never make her happy or i did something wrong. or she cries for no reason and I dont get why. what do I do to make her stop or understand. -Lucas

Lucas, thanks for writing me because it seems like you might be a little insensitive or your girlfriend is too emotional. Did she just start birth control? Really. If she did that may be one of the reasons why her emotions are amplified. I cried all the time when I started the pill. As far as if you are doing something wrong or just never making her happy, things will probably just be like that sometimes. If it’s excessive then I would consider just asking her simply what is wrong or comforting her. You know, girls like to be comforted. Put your arm around her or something. If she’s upset and it has nothing to do with you I would consider asking her what happened to let her vent. Most guys will say something like, “well of course you did something wrong” etc and that definitely pushes the buttons for the water works if she’s already sensitive. Are you bothering her too much when she’s upset? People like space and if you aren’t giving it to her she’ll probably get more crabby. If you’re getting ‘pissed off’ at her for crying, that’s probably making it worse.

Getting down to the real reason why she’s upset may help you out. When she isn’t in an emotional state of mind I’d suggest having a real conversation about why she’s always crying. There could be some deep rooted family problem or she’s going through a lot of stress over school/work and doesn’t want to necessarily throw all the baggage on you. Finding out what is behind all the crying could help you understand what is going through her mind and in turn just make her stop with the water works all the time. And hey, that’d make her fall in love with you even more, right?

Maybe the solution is that you guys break things off. No one wants to deal with a girlfriend who is never happy/always crying and no one wants to deal with a boyfriend who doesn’t care enough.

Don’t forget, if you have any questions for me send them to kymbyedge@gmail.com!

I just recently purchased a boyfriend blazer & I must say, I’m hooked!
The problem is, I have no idea how to style it or what to wear it
with. What are your suggestions?

Thanks, Nicole

Hey Nicole! I’ve been meaning to purchase a blazer for the past couple months and your email got me as I was shopping and reminded me! Sorry for the poor photo quality, I was in the dressing room at Urban Outfitters and had to take a shot for you.

I really think that you can wear a blazer with almost anything. Here I’m wearing an open front blazer with a tunic and bike shorts. I normally wear my tunics a little big because I like them to be ‘flowy’. The bike shorts are from Target. I’d definetly pair this outfit with heels or if I want to keep it casual I’d wear flats.

What I’d like next is a Navy blazer to dress up with a long gray tank top/dress, sheer cream tights, and a cognac boot. I wore the blazer today at work too, a little more modern because there is no button closure and the sleeves are cuffed. It doesn’t make me feel so stuffy and stiff, in a professional perspective.

I put together some ideas and compiled a bunch of different looks for you behind the cut! Hope this helps!

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Hi,
I was wondering if you could do a post on what to wear with or how to wear knee high socks
Stella

I have never been able to pull off knee high socks at any point in my life. For one, I’m way too short so “knee high” is HIGH thigh on me. Times change, and so does my body, so I think I might give this a shot. Just have to be sure it’s pulled off right.

One of the first times I remember the knee high making its comeback was when Sarah Jessica Parker did it with the gray knee highs. I love what she wore them with, looks great. Knee high socks, tights, and even thigh highs, can be worn with shorts, a short skirt/dress, and almost any type of footwear.

Check behind the cut for what I found!

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You know when you’ve just got something rattling around in your mind and you want an un-biased opinion? Well, I’ll do my best… but e-mail me!!! I’m thinking outside of the box here so whatever it is, so long as it’s appropriate, send my way. Fashion, advice, whatever it may be.

KymbyEdge@gmail.com - don’t be shy! I’ll post one to two questions a week here.

Hi,

Ana

Great dress Ana. I’ve been trying to find something like this for a while. The one you’ve chosen is simple but different because of the pattern. I would have been boring and preferred black. Inspiration to look for something more fun!

I’ve chosen some shoes for you that are behind the cut. Hope you like em!

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Collen wrote:
how do you turn a potiential friendship into a relationship hmmm…like you know the sparks are there from both sides so how do you make it happen?;)

Colleen, first I’d like to know how long you two have been friends. Has it always been like this where there are *sparks* flying back and forth? Do you talk on the phone, text? Hang out alone? Talk to him, but don’t come off too stalker-ish. Get your flirt on but be sure you aren’t acting the same to other guys that are around - you don’t want to give him the wrong impression. Get to the point where you two are comfortable around eachother and he knows that you are giving him more attention. Let it go from there.

If it seems to be taking too long or you are already at that point then, I’d say to take the assertive approach and tell the guy you flat out want to go out on a date. No need to be passive here girl, we live in a time where aggressive females make their mark. Be straight forward with how you feel, he might be too shy to tell you because he’s scared you’ll tell him you “aren’t interested”. Trust me, being assertive pays off. I sought out my current boyfriend and we have been together for four years!!!

Do you other ladies, or gents, have suggestions? What works best for you when you are interested in someone?